thoughts on zingers

Maybe I’m the only person, but sometimes when I’m thinking about something, movie quotations or lyrics from songs will come to mind which lines up with things. Today, this dialogue in You’ve Got Mail came to mind. Love this movie.

Joe Fox: Have you ever become the worst version of yourself. That a pandora’s box of all the hateful things, your spite, your arrogance, your condecension has sprung open? Someone upsets you and instead of smiling and walking away… you zing them. “Hello it’s Mr Nasty”. I’m sure you have no idea what I’m talking about…

Kathleen Kelly: No I know exactly what you mean and I’m completely jealous. When I’m confronted by someone I get tongue tied and my mind goes blank. Then I spend the rest of the night tossing and turning over what i should have said. For example what should I have recently said to… a bottom dweller who recently belittled my existance. Nothing… even now days later I still can’t figured it out…

Joe Fox: Wouldn’t it be great if I could pass all my zingers to you, then I could always be nice and you could be nasty whenever you wanted to be. Although I must warn you… when you eventually have the pleasure of saying the thing you want to say at the moment you’re wanting to say it… remorse eventually follows…

[Later in the movie]

Kathleen Kelley: And as I waited, someone else showed up, a man who has made my professional life a misery, and an amazing thing happened — I was able, for the first time in my life, to say the exact thing I wanted to say it. And of course, afterwards, I felt terrible. Just as you said I would. I was cruel, and I’m never cruel. And even though I can hardly believe what I said mattered to this man — to him, I’m just a bug to be crushed — but what if it did? No matter what he’s done to me, there’s no excuse for my behavior.

I’m not usually a zinger girl. But I always secretly aspire to be. That seemingly scripted moment where everything just gets put out there and you’re able to walk away having said everything you wanted to say. More often than not, I’ve been known to fumble up trying to express my thoughts and feelings. I always walk away thinking of all of the things I wish I had said. But I’m learning that airing it all out? Yeah, it doesn’t necessarily make you feel better on the flip-side.


2 thoughts on “thoughts on zingers

  1. I think of zingers about half an hour after the fact – so frustrating!

    Every once in a while I can wham out a good one, and it’s so awesome. Is it bad to think that? 🙂

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